March 9, 2005
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[mood | still sick
[music | Jay Chou- Shanghai 1943]I just heard today that my ex (first bf) got engaged. Not really sure what to think. More about that later…
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Thank you all for your comments. I don’t even really feel sad. I had just felt a little weird. But I came to realize that it’s not a race, and we weren’t meant to be. I don’t think the reaction I had was even 1/94759475 as dramatic as I had thought it would be a few years ago. Not one single tear was shed. It was just like, “Oh”. lol. Is that weird?
You know, my mom asked me today, “So have you gotten over the love of your life being engaged yet” and I could honestly answer her “yes”. Not that I think he was the love of my life…but it was my first real bf…lol
It’s either that I don’t care anymore, or that it hasn’t sunk in yet and I am still in shock.
More than likely it’s that I don’t care.
We’ve been broken up for almost 5 years. They’ve been together 4. She’s 7 years older. It’s not like I didn’t see this coming.
In the end I can only say that I am happy for him. I’m happy that he’s finally found the one.
So to them, my best wishes. [end edit]
Comments (20)
That has been happening a lot lately…people are even writing songs about it heheh.
Ummm as for me and my relationship issues, I kinda don’t really feel all that strongly for some reason…as I said to him, I don’t really know him!
Aww, don’t worry about it, Lenka. Pretty much everyone from your past will marry eventually, and you obviously weren’t the right match to begin with. Right? Anyway, there’s nothing special about getting married first; it’s not a competition.
oooh…icic..complicated feelin heh
wow….well hope u feel better! *filakia polla*
=)
My ex also got married. I am happy for him. I live much better now and I am proud of it.
yeah… that’s got to be a strange feeling!
sure… you…. are….
lol. jp =)
I’ve only had one ex… and that was over a decade ago. Gee, that really ages me!
At this point, I don’t think I’ll feel anything if I found out he was engaged. He’s ancient history now! 
argg…well u can be happy for him or u can do what i usually do…assure urself that men really sux…:P but then eventually ull find the right one.
cyA!~
Girls are meant to be complex, we aren’t meant to know how we feel hehe…so yah I can totally understand what you mean!
Greek…hahah…ermmm well my cousins are half Greek, that’s as close as I get =P
That’s a weird feelings. But i think you should have a better life than him. hehe Although i don’t have ex. But i think that’s really a weird feelings. Give you a *hug*. hehe
i think there was a sex and city episode on that… if i remember correctly, you get to pout and vent to your ex-bf, and then walk away with your dignity… but that might apply to just carrie bradshaw
It doesn’t matter when you get married, or even if you do. A young man asked Socrates, “Should I marry?” and Socrates answered, “Whether you do or whether you don’t, you will regret it.” There’s some Greek wisdom for ya! So, I would say, “Don’t worry about it,” but you’re already not worrying about it anyway, and that’s good.
Nicole: there are new *WHITE KITTY* excerpts you haven’t read in my LJ. But you need an ID to read them. Just FYI.
Glad you’re feeling better about it! I think it’s normal to feel a little weird–I would feel a little weird if my ex married, but I wouldn’t feel any sadness or regret. Sometimes I think it’s the change that bothers us most–we remember things a certain way, and when we don’t see someone for a long time, they remain locked in the past in our memories.
hoep your well and it’s pink~
you know i think it’s weird when a ex gets married too. it’s not like i’m jealous but… it’s just weird. i hear ya girl! still sick? why are you still sick?! get well soon ok???
SF was great. i actually want to move out there…
haha, yep, twins! haha fun fun =]
And sooner or later you will find ‘the one’ too
I love reading your comments to my posts..you always make me laugh, and I love knowing there is someone out their as fiesty as me if not more…you rock!!
good job. that’s the right way to deal with it. =D
good job. that’s the right way to deal with it. =D
oh no, that was just a little thought i found to be amusing… besides, the situation is a little different than that. i dunno if i told u, but i was planning on continuing my education after 2 years of college in russia either way. if i graduate over that time, i’ll still have to continue education in russia because we don’t have such thing as a master’s degree, we just have 5 years of college; plus i’d need to know stuff about russian education system. so, basically the main advantage of graduating is having a completed american college education – that’s a huge plus. 2 uncompleted years are also nice, but not as good. but other than that, i believe that it will be pretty much the same (but i’m not 100% sure, thanks to the nice people in the russian university who were so helpful when i was there -_-”).